Dating

A friend and I decided to blog about a topic and provide two different complete sets of perspectives.  We came up with "Dating."  A word that I have never really paid attention to for nearly a year.  It is not that I am avoiding the idea but simply just have different sets of priorities in mind. Now that the topic has risen and my perspective on the subject was inquired, then I shall dig deep and speak.

Seeking a potential partner, whether online or in person is a difficult task and to top it off is very scary.  I remember my first date...wait ...wait…back up…let me start before I asked someone on a date, shall we?  It was back in my early years of high school.  It practically took me almost two entire periods prior to lunch to conjure all of my might and courage, come up with a witty/clever remark so I don't look like an idiot in front of her. I squander my time in the washroom rehearsing what I was going to say...kept telling myself, it has to be perfect and right on the exact moment.  After a few minutes of memorizing, I felt confident and ready. I just couldn't wait for that sweet ringing sound that tells you that it is lunchtime.  

So it came...I figured I should bring a friend with me just for support.  We head down the cafeteria, sat a couple of tables from her.  Walked up to her and all that preparation, rehearsals went straight down the drain because all I can say at that moment was one of the most underrated words created in our modern dictionary, "Hi."  A complete moment of silent ensued.  I could have sworn my brain shut down for a brief moment.  I couldn’t feel my legs or anything at that moment.  Everything went completely blank but as soon as she opened her lips and said, “hello”...everything went back online. I had a good conversation with her and we decided to go on a date.

See the way I see it, the male species work doesn't stop there.  Now, the real hard work is the actual date.  There's this deep feeling of unknown about her.  Then I start asking questions such as; where to take her; what does she like; how will the date turn out; oooh and what will we talk about on the way to the destination.  All these questions are muddled in my head.  What I can't speak about is how a girl's mindset prior to her date.  Does she think the same way or the pressure is always on us men?  I can't even begin to remember how many articles I've read on first dates, the do’s, and don'ts of it.  Only if all these modern technology gadgets were popular a few years back, it would make it effortless, but I will always prefer the old fashioned face-to-face interaction. Besides, it is always fun to reminisce your embarrassing moment. 

So, I went through the hardship of asking a girl out, now onto the next stage...the actual first date.  Two strangers united to test out our compatibility...sounds nerve-racking, right? Yes! Because it sure did when I went through it.  Good thing I came prepared.  I knew that when women go on a first date, they analyze every little thing a man does.  Oh, I know...an article I read told me so lol.  After all, the pressure is always on men to prove himself in front of her.  Okay, so I asked myself, how to not completely ruin this date?  So, I thought maybe if I make her feel comfortable she will relax and a bit more ease on the conversation.  Conversations are always a key for me in finding out whether a second date is in order.  I went through the date having the second date in mind and as every other guy out there.... the impervious good night first kiss on the cheek in front of her doorstep.  Coming in, these are the goal I set for myself.  After a nice meal at a restaurant and a moonlight walk at the park, I can safe to say the date went well.  How did I know? Simply because when we looked back, what we remembered the most was the conversation we had.  In addition, that kiss on the cheek at the end of the night served as the icing.

In conclusion, these are the sort of “stuff” that goes through our head (at least mine) prior to engaging with someone on a date.  All the preparations because this is our one and only shot to show beyond doubt what a great guy we are.  If the girl is willing to give us that fighting chance to showcase ourselves then I intend to shine.

I can only assume that a girl would be thinking or asking the same questions.  But if you want to find out, you’re just going to have to read the blog of DollyFatz.